Je niangalie jinsia ya mtoto kabla hajazaliwa?

Helloo,

Jana mtu aliniuliza kama niliangalia jinsia ya mtoto wangu kabla hajazaliwa. Hii ni kati ya "Dillema" ambayo wengi wanakuwa nayo mtoto akiwa tumboni hasa mmoja wa wazazi anapotaka sana kujua.

Turudi kwangu; of course nilitamani sana kujua jinsia kwasababu nilitamani niandae nguo za mtoto na kuamua jina,siku kadhaa kabla ya ultra sound ambayo ilikuwa niende kuangalia nilipoenda clinic daktari aliniuliza kama najua jinsia nikamwambia ndio nimepanga kwenda kuangalia.

Daktari aliniambia naomba nikushauri usiende, nikamuuliza kwanini? Liniambia,

• Kila mtu ana hamu ya aina fulani ya mtoto hata kama ungepata yoyote ungefurahi ila kule ndani ya moyo sana kuna unachotamani zaidi

• Alisema kuna uwezekano wa kuwepo a small disappointment kama jinsia ya mtoto itakuwa sio ile unayoitamani sana. Alisema hii disappointment kwa mama inaondoa furaha ya kubeba mimba na kama atajifungua kawaida (natural birth) morale ya "kupush" inapungua.
• Lastly alisema it is fun to wait for the surprise...alisema the excitement ya kujua jinsia ya mtoto akiwa amezaliwa it is fulfilling.

Kwa hiyo mimi sikuangalia tena and YES the waiting was worth it. 

Hayo yalikuwa ni mawazo ya daktari na maamuzi yangu. Nilipofanya maamuzi ya manunuzi ya nguo nilinunua nguo zenye 'neutral colors'. Halafu nilikuwa na issue ya rangi za blue na pink ambayo nitashare na nyie siku nyingine. Kuhusu majina nilichagua majina mawili la kike na la kiume

Mwisho wa siku unahaki ya kujua na kutojua. Do what you feel best.

Weekend njema,

ATM.

To all the wonderful fathers out there, starting with my dad

Hello,

Courageous ni kati ya movies zinazotamba sana moyoni mwangu...ilinipa kuona struggles wanazopitia wanaume. Imeniispire na kubadili maisha yangu.

This is a must watch, pata baadhi ya quotes zitakazokupa kutafakari kuhusu your purpose in life

 Parenthood is a continual learning process for life.

 Can this be your New Year resolution?

 Jamii inawahitaji

Will you be that asset to your children? I want to be one

 Hii kidogo inilize. Kumbe kuwajibika kwangu kunaweza kubadili jamii nzima?

Je, unajipangaje kuwa mfano wa kuigwa na watoto wako?

How much are you planning to help your children be what God wants them to be?

Je, nitazaa mtoto mlemavu au?

Sijui ni wangapi wenu mmeshawahi kujiuliza swali hili wakati wowote...inawezekana bado hujawa mjamzito ila umeshawahi kujiuliza na hasa kama katika familia kuna watu wenye ulemavu tofauti tofauti....inaogopesha sana.

Kabla sijafahamu kuwa ni mjamzito niliumwa kwa kama miezi miwil hivi na nilikunywa antibiotics kali sana. Zote zilikuwa zimeandikwa " Not to be used by women in their first trimester", yaani hazikupasa kutumiwa na wanawake wajawazito walioko kwenye miezi 3 ya kwanza.

Hapo ndo nilipoanza mawazo sana kuwa mtoto atakuwa kiziwi au kipofu au vipi. Daktari aliniambia nitajua matokeo nitakapojifungua. Iliniogopesha, niligundua kuwa siwezi kumwambia Mungu usinipe mtoto mlemavu...apewe nani sasa?

Niliyofanya:

• Nilimwambia Mungu mapenzi yake yatimizwe
• Nilimwomba Mungu anipe nguvu na upendo wa kulea mtoto hata kama atakuwa mlemavu

Baada ya maombi hayo mafupi nilikuwa "stress free" and was waiting anxiously for my surprise from God

Happy parenting,

Jina la mtoto

Jina gani unampa mtoto?

Siku moja nilikosea jina la mtu mmoja kwenye mtihani wa historia nikiwa O-level. Nilienda kwa mwalimu nikamwambia point yangu ilikuwa sawa na amenipa alama kidogo akaniambia umekosea jina la mtu.

Nilishangazwa ila mwalimu aliniambia kuwa jina la mtu ni Identity yake. Jina linampa mtu utofauti kati yake na mwingine, hata mapacha wana majina tofauti

Baadhi ya watu wanaamini majina yanamahusiano ya kiroho na mtu.

Tahadhari: Usimpe jina mtoto kwa kufuata mkumbo.

Jina la mtoto ni muhimu sana na kwa baadhi ya watu, tabia zao zinafanana na majina yao.



Happy Parenting and a pleasant weekend

Billy Graham: Don't Give Up On Daughter Going Down The Wrong Road

Question:

Why do some people insist on doing things they know will hurt them? Our daughter just laughs at us when we try to tell her she's going down the wrong road, and she's only hurting herself. It really breaks our hearts. What's wrong with her?

Answer:

I'm thankful you're concerned about your daughter and (as you indicate) you're concerned about her precisely because you know what's likely to happen to her. Sin always has consequences, and they're always bad.

But one of the most devastating consequences of sin is spiritual blindness. In other words, sin blinds us to its own terrible consequences. What your daughter is doing isn't logical, because all she has to do is look around her to see how people's lives are constantly wrecked because they refuse to do what's right. But in her spiritual blindness she's convinced herself that she will be the exception, although she won't. The Bible bluntly warns, "the wages of sin is death" (Romans 6:23).

Don't give up praying for her, and don't stand aside or quit warning your daughter as you have opportunity. But do so with gentleness and love, letting her know that you aren't trying to run her life, but you love her and care deeply what happens to her. And if (like the prodigal son) she hits bottom someday, she needs to know God still loves her and welcomes her, and so do you.

Above all, ask God to help you be an example to her of Christ's love and grace. It's hard to see a son or daughter wander down the wrong road, and sometimes a parent's words only cause resentment. But God can do what we can't do, and often our example speaks louder than our words.

Siku njema

Facts of pregnancy

Nimeipenda hii.

1. For every 2,000 babies one is born with a tooth

2. Babies cries in the womb

3. A woman's uterus expands to more than 500 times its normal size over the course of a pregnancy

4. A baby's fingerprint are set within the first 3 months of pregnancy.

5.Baby girls are born with all the eggs they will ever use, but boys don't develop sperms until puberty

A change of name

Hello..

I believe you are having a wonderful week.

Notice a change of name?

Enjoy.

Pregnancy when the circumstances "seem" wrong

 Hello everyone,

So I promised you that I will share with you what you do when you are pregnant and circumstances "seem" wrong. If you have noticed the word seem is in "..". This is because I believe and it will help you too to believe that nothing in your life happens by accident, they are in God's control, they are a result of our doing and as a result of forces beyond us.

In the case of a child I hate to call a child an "accident". It doesn't matter how they were conceived they are never a mistake. Kwenye mawazo yetu tunadhani wakati si sahihi ila ndo wakati uliokubalika, make the most of it.

Awali nilisema yale mambo ya kufanya unapojua umjamzito:

1. Ni muhimu kumwambia mwenzako haraka sana.
Hata kama inaonekana ana hali ya kutokubali ni muhimu kufahamu mapema ili kuondoa hali ya mvurugano baadae. Uwazi ni muhimu sana.

Tahadhari: kama huna uhakika na nani baba wa mtoto usimdanganye mtu ili uolewe au upate fidia fulani.

2. Biga magoti na fanya hivi; kama umepata mimba nje ya ndoa tubu na weka agano na Mungu la kusonga mbele, na mshukuru sana Mungu maana anakupenda. Biblia inasema, "Shukuruni kwa kila jambo maana yote ni mapenzi ya Mungu". Kama uko ndani ya ndoa, huu ni muda wa kumshukuru Mungu kwa baraka zake tele.

Soma barua hii kutoka kwa baba kwenda kwa binti yake aliyepata mimba nje ya ndoa:

"I just got you letter today.

1. Remain assured that you are our unique daughter and mom and I love you

2. God loves your still, and still has a good plan for you.

3. That in everything, God works for good for those that love him, those that are called according to His purpose: "For in hope were we saved: but hope that is seen is not hope: for who hopeth for that which he seeth?But if we hope for that which we see not, 'then' do we with patience wait for it. And in like manner the Spirit also helpeth our infirmity: for we know not how to pray as we ought; but the Spirit himself maketh intercession for 'us' with groanings which cannot be uttered; 

And he that searcheth the hearts knoweth what is the mind of the Spirit, because he maketh intercession for the saints according to 'the will of' God. And we know that to them that love God all things work together for good, 'even' to them that are called according to 'his' purpose. For whom he foreknew, he also foreordained 'to be' conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren: And whom he foreordained, them he also called: and whom he called, them he also justified: and whom he justified, them he also glorified." Rom 8

Do two things1. Seriously repent and come back. Don't stay wallowing in the mud2. Look forward and never look back. You have golds over there, don't stay in the mud. TOUGH TIMES NEVER LAST, TOUGH PEOPLE DO!"

Be encouraged by this and please jipe moyo. When you are weak is when you are strong. 

Have a great weekend all.

Morning sickness: What to do to help

Morning all,

Najua kwa wengine asubuhi si nzuri sanaa, hasa kama mimba ni changa. Hizi dondoo zaweza kubadili hilo.

Have small, frequent feedings.
Dr. Crisologo states that it is all right to give in to food cravings while pregnant, as long as you take everything in moderation

Find a snack to help curb that “metallic taste.”
Anna Beltran, 28, shares that the bitter taste inside the mouth is exactly what she used to feel during her pregnancy. What worked for her was chewing on candies that made the awful taste subside. Others suggest sucking on lemons or lemon candy, munching on ginger biscuits, or sipping ginger tea. Dr. Crisologo suggests using real ginger, about two tablespoons of crushed ginger in warm water with honey.

Try vitamin B Complex.
Studies have shown that the B Complex vitamins (Vitamin B1, B6, and B12) have also been effective in helping curb morning sickness. Because these are water-soluble vitamins, there is also no harm of toxicity or harmful effect on the baby.

Relief can be aided by some medication.
When hyperacidity becomes a problem, some doctors prescribe antacids or antispasmodic drugs like Buscopan (hyoscine-N-butylbromide) to relax the muscles in the stomach. In cases of severe vomiting, antiemetic (anti-vomiting) drugs like Plasil (Metoclopramide) can also be taken as prescribed by the doctor. Even Bonamine (Meclizine Hydrochloride), which is usually taken to soothe motion sickness, may work.

Drink lots of liquids.
Keeping hydrated is essential not only to avoid lightheadedness, but also to relieve dryness of the throat and to replace the fluids one has expelled from the body. A pregnant woman should drink water as often as she can, preferably about 10 to 14 glasses a day

 It helps to accept it mentally.
Dr. Campaña tells her patients to see nausea as a positive thing because it is usually an indication that the pregnancy is going well. It is a sign that the body is adjusting to the changes pregnancy brings, which include the production of certain hormones and weakening of the immune system (in order for the body to accept the baby’s presence more easily). On another note, she also shares that stress or external anxiety can worsen the symptoms of morning sickness.

Kwa Hisani ya; Smart parenting.

Fuata hapa kwa msaada zaidi:
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/pregnancy/health-nutrition/6-tips-for-morning-sickness-relief/page/3

http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-9602/30-natural-remedies-for-morning-sickness.html

Tips to make your Child learn how to read

Reading is a skill that is considered essential for learning. This is why parents want to help develop their children’s reading skills as early as possible. It is important to note, though, that, like any other skill, developing reading skills takes time, and not all children are the same. The pace at which a child learns to read also depends on his or her readiness.

You can make the process easier — and maybe even more fun — by putting these tips into practice:

1. Read aloud to your child.
An expert says, "As a parent teacher myself, I have seen how the seemingly ‘simple’ act of reading aloud to my children every day has benefited them in so many ways — including helping them learn basic pre-reading and reading skills. These include direction (print goes from left to right), rhyming, concepts of print or how to handle books, and letter identification."

Jim Trelease, author of The New York Times bestseller The Read-Aloud Handbook, explains it perfectly:

“We read aloud to children for the same reasons we talk with them: to reassure; entertain; bond; inform; arouse curiosity; and inspire. But reading aloud goes further than conversation when it:

•    Conditions the child to associate reading with pleasure;
•    Creates background knowledge
•    Builds “book” vocabulary;
•    Provides a reading role model.”

So if you want your child to learn to read and love reading, read aloud to them every day — even if it’s just for 15 minutes.

2.Provide easy access to books.
Rosanne Unson, co-owner of The Learning Basket, says one of the things she learned under her diploma course in Language and Literacy Education at the UP Open University is the importance of making books available to children.

“Make books available and accessible everywhere. Having access to books makes them interested in it,” Unson shares. “It also teaches them how to handle books properly. The more they are exposed to books, the more they will get interested in reading.”

One way parents can do this is to dedicate a space or corner in their homes as their children’s “book corner” or “library.” If you can, provide bookshelves that your child can reach, and fill them with age-appropriate children’s books. Even children as young as 2 years old will love “reading” their favorite books in their own “library.”

3.Choose books appropriate for your child’s reading level.

4. Make learning to read fun.

5.Make books “come alive.”

6.Incorporate play into your child’s learning-to-read routine.

7.Teach your child to “find” letters everywhere.

8.Read. 

You can find more details on: http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/parenting/parent-child-fun-activities/8-things-you-can-do-to-help-your-child-learn-how-to-read?utm_source=Facebook&utm_medium=CPA&utm_campaign=01132015-teachread

Tembelea hapa kwa mapumziko

Habari za asubuhi,

Moja ya sababu ya kuipenda sana kazi yangu ni kuwa inanipa fursa ya kutembelea sehemu nzuri sana. Nilipata bahati ya kufika Kiliview Lodge.

Hapa mahali ni pazuri sana na nilifikiri ni sehemu nzuri sana kwa mapumziko binafsi lakini zaidi kwa fungate(Honeymoon). 

Unatazama mji wa Moshi kutoka hapo. What a view.

Kwa wale mnaopenda adventures hapa ni safi sana.

Enjoy

A woman's strength

Good morning to you,

 I believe you had a wonderful long weekend for my readers in Tanzania. It was an amazing time with my Genesis and the rest of the family.

So over the weekend I got this inspirational message from My wonderful sister, a woman of God, a role model and a wonderful mom and grandmom, I hope you will all be blessed as you go through the week.

Thank you Upendo Douglas Mmari for this.

Much love.

Proverbs 31 Ministries

January 10 · 

"A woman’s strength does not come from relying on her own limited abilities. Instead, her strength comes when she relies on the LORD’s infinite and unmatched abilities operating through her.” - Leah DiPascal

GOD's NOT DEAD!!!!!!

We need to teach our children the way of the LORD. Faith is the beacon of our existance. Please watch the trailer on youtube and get your copy.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bMjo5f9eiX8

Meet the person who stole my heart

She changed my name to Mama Genesis-Gloria

With mama to a party

That smile make me give in to all her demamds

Beautiful House Happy people

Wengi tunapenda nyumba nzuri na tunatamani vitu ndani ya nyumba vikae vizuri. Baadhi tuna vijiofisi vidogo nyumbani au meza za watoto za kusomea. 

Sasa nimeiona hii napenda kukushirikisha mawazo mazuri ya kufanya nyumba yako ionekane nadhifu na hutumii pesa nyingi maana unafanya tu na vitu ulivyomaliza kuvitumia kama box za cereals za watoto au vikopo vilivyoisha vitu. Wazungu wanasema una recycle na Do It Yourself (DIY). Tazama picha na tembelea tovuti yao kwa maelezo zaidi.

Follow this link too: http://www.amazinginteriordesign.com/10-awesome-diy-desk-organizers-home/

na DIY Tutorial via showmehowto.net.

All the best.

Watu hawazaliwi mashoga!!!!(People are not born gay)

Najua katika dunia hii ya mambo ya ndoa za jinsia moja baadhi yetu tunaanza kuogopa kama tutazaa watoto ambao ni Homosexuals, soma hii.

by Mark Ellis –
Eight major studies of identical twins in Australia, the U.S., and Scandinavia during the last two decades all arrive at the same conclusion: gays were not born that way.

“At best genetics is a minor factor,” says Dr. Neil Whitehead, PhD. Whitehead worked for the New Zealand government as a scientific researcher for 24 years, then spent four years working for the United Nations and International Atomic Energy Agency. Most recently, he serves as a consultant to Japanese universities about the effects of radiation exposure. His PhD is in biochemistry and statistics.

Identical twins have the same genes or DNA. They are nurtured in equal prenatal conditions. If homosexuality is caused by genetics or prenatal conditions and one twin is gay, the co-twin should also be gay.

“Because they have identical DNA, it ought to be 100%,” Dr. Whitehead notes. But the studies reveal something else. “If an identical twin has same-sex attraction the chances the co-twin has it are only about 11% for men and 14% for women.”

Because identical twins are always genetically identical, homosexuality cannot be genetically dictated. “No-one is born gay,” he notes. “The predominant things that create homosexuality in one identical twin and not in the other have to be post-birth factors.”

The predominant things that create homosexuality in one identical twin and not in the other have to be post-birth factors.

Dr. Whitehead believes same-sex attraction (SSA) is caused by “non-shared factors,” things happening to one twin but not the other, or a personal response to an event by one of the twins and not the other.

For example, one twin might have exposure to pornography or sexual abuse, but not the other. One twin may interpret and respond to their family or classroom environment differently than the other. “These individual and idiosyncratic responses to random events and to common environmental factors predominate,” he says.

The first very large, reliable study of identical twins was conducted in Australia in 1991, followed by a large U.S. study about 1997. Then Australia and the U.S. conducted more twin studies in 2000, followed by several studies in Scandinavia, according to Dr. Whitehead.

“Twin registers are the foundation of modern twin studies. They are now very large, and exist in many countries. A gigantic European twin register with a projected 600,000 members is being organized, but one of the largest in use is in Australia, with more than 25,000 twins on the books.”

A significant twin study among adolescents shows an even weaker genetic correlation. In 2002 Bearman and Brueckner studied tens of thousands of adolescent students in the U.S. The same-sex attraction concordance between identical twins was only 7.7% for males and 5.3% for females—lower than the 11% and 14% in the Australian study by Bailey et al conducted in 2000.

In the identical twin studies, Dr. Whitehead has been struck by how fluid and changeable sexual identity can be.

“Neutral academic surveys show there is substantial change. About half of the homosexual/bisexual population (in a non-therapeutic environment) moves towards heterosexuality over a lifetime. About 3% of the present heterosexual population once firmly believed themselves to be homosexual or bisexual.”

“Sexual orientation is not set in concrete,” he notes.

Most changes in sexual orientation are towards exclusive heterosexuality.

Even more remarkable, most of the changes occur without counseling or therapy. “These changes are not therapeutically induced, but happen ‘naturally’ in life, some very quickly,” Dr. Whitehead observes. “Most changes in sexual orientation are towards exclusive heterosexuality.”

Numbers of people who have changed towards exclusive heterosexuality are greater than current numbers of bisexuals and homosexuals combined. In other words, ex-gays outnumber actual gays.

The fluidity is even more pronounced among adolescents, as Bearman and Brueckner’s study demonstrated. “They found that from 16 to 17-years-old, if a person had a romantic attraction to the same sex, almost all had switched one year later.”

“The authors were pro-gay and they commented that the only stability was among the heterosexuals, who stayed the same year after year. Adolescents are a special case—generally changing their attractions from year to year.”

Still, many misconceptions persist in the popular culture. Namely, that homosexuality is genetic – so hard-wired into one’s identity that it can’t be changed. “The academics who work in the field are not happy with the portrayals by the media on the subject,” Dr. Whitehead notes. “But they prefer to stick with their academic research and not get involved in the activist side.”

HT: hollanddavis.com

Encouragement

                                          MY STORY

Naitwa Dorothea Laiser, I'm 26 years and proud mother of one handsome boy
When I found out that I was pregnant I had mixed emotions,
I was happy that I was going to be a mother but on the other hand I was so scared, I was jobless and had a young sister to support .

Nilipata wakati mgumu kidogo but feeling the movements inside me gave me the strength to keep going plus I had full support from my partner.

The pregnancy experience was superb, fun and exiting.....
Myboy is now 8 months ,healthy and developing well

Am pregnant!!!!!!!!!

Joyful news to every couple. This is what every couple waits after they get married, its an "Icing on a cake" in every marriage.

On the other hand this announcement is a disaster and a major shock to some couple or individuals. This can be so confusing to most people and because of our backgrounds and personalities reaction to this announcement can vary from abortion to suicide.

Regardless of the circumstances I want you to know that pregnancy is a blessing and a baby is a joy and a gift, is one way that God has chose to involve humans in his creation process and so we should be glad and receive it thankfully.

I know some of you are already saying , "Agape you just don't know how strict my parents are" or "Agape you can't imagine how abusive my husband is,I can not have another baby", or "It's too soon to have another baby and I am financially unstable" or "I have a difficult semester at the University I can not be pregnant". These are some of the statements people use to justify abortion and/ suicide and I have heard some of these statements from married people too and believe me I was shocked.

We are pregnant, then what?

This is a question in every couple's minds when they know they are pregnant. Here are some general tips on what to do.

1. If a lady got the news when she is alone, share this news with your hubby. Women around the world have different styles of saying this and in another post I will share the tips.
2. Kneel down and thank God for this miracle. 
3. Visit a gynecologist and start attending clinics
4. Change your lifestyle, this means food,drinks and all other little nasty behaviors, you are about to be a parent
5. Start talking to your child, sit with your spouse and communicate with your child with LOVE. If there is no husband, do it yourself with love and kindness.

Next post will be on, "Pregnancy when the circumstances "seem" wrong". I know some of you will see number 5 and be hesitant, after the next post, number 5 will be easy to do and the list will increase.

Until next time, all the best.

Welcome Note: Karibu sanaaa

Dear Reader,

When I was 20 I started thinking about writing a book by the age of 25. I wrote not more than fine (5) pages which no one has never seen. I went around brain storming of the title and things I should really write but I did not find much. I am not sure why but I believe it is because I have so much  I would like to say and I have so little experience.

By the age of 25 I was pregnant of a wonderful baby girl who changed my life for the better. I was jobless and not married. This meant I had more time to read all I could about pregnancy and raising a child. I had so much time in my hands to read books and visit all helpful websites about motherhood and parenting as I could find.

Around the same time I was pregnant most of my friends became pregnant and most of them are happy moms today. We all have a long way to go and so I started a WhatsApp group called Young Mothers Club where we could share inspirations and many other helpful tips.

Motherhood is a Blessing in today's world is more of a miracle. I am just starting this journey and I hope you and I will benefit so much from all the amazing wisdom that we will find in this blog. Please join me in this amazing adventure of motherhood and parenting and help build a generation of great people in these difficult times.

I hope now I will have you to help me write that book by the age of 50 if God wishes.

Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.”(Proverbs 31:28,29 NIV)

"Fathers,[b] do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord." (Ephesians 6:4, NIV)

Glady,

Agape